Shit guys I'm really tired D:” and dependency is a big topic, I guess ill try tho.
Number 19 out of 31, Dependent.
Simply put, dependency is the sort of thing we believe we’re doing less of as we hit the high points in life. We start out AS a dependent, and become independent. Most people believe in this mentally, but there’s also that sense in finances. However, with finances, you go from being dependent to being independent, and that’s that. With mentality, it’s all the more complicated.
When we’re young, We want to turn to somebody. We need mom, dad, or big brother to help us along. We keyword NEED somebody there for us. And as we get older, we want to be leaned UPON, and not leaning on others. We become independent. Some people believe that as a sign of maturity. But its all the more foolish to believe you can be the one leaned upon, end of story. When we’re young, we lean on mom, THINKING she’s the independent. What we don’t realize is that mom leans on dad, and they lean on uncles or aunts sometimes, even their parents. We’re never really stop being dependent on others.
Those who believe they can constantly be independent, are the most foolish of all. The “ill-do-it-myself” mentality is fine given a situation, but to live that way all the time is crazy when you can’t trust ANYONE, then you’re living a sad life. People look and need to have someone lean on them, but also to find people that they themselves can lean on. We do it all the time, even when we say we don’t. I’m not afraid to say I’m dependent on people. Even small actions or the words one gives is a dependency, from mom doing my laundry to having me rant about the stupidity of something. Had I not ranted about it, I might not have felt as okay keeping it balled up. Letting people in is to depend, and trust in them. They can help, you just have to believe that they can. Sometimes you can get so dependent on someone, that you feel lost without them around. It’s not a sign of weakness, it’s something that you have to sort out in your ways. When you know they can’t be around for you, or that they can’t help you at that point and it happens at every point, you step in with that so-called independency to take over. Being independent is KNOWING how to take care of your shit. It doesn’t make you any less dependent on friends, family, or otherwise.
And if you don’t believe me, think about this. As you are within your last years of life, you revert to being a child again. You need your son or daughters to take care of you, and you need the doctor to keep you alive. Dependent until the day you die.
See yalls.
~Kayton
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